Cohesive Family through Truth & Faithfulness

Scriptural Text: Ephesians 5:15 - 6:4

Preached at DUMC 15/16 March 2014 by Pr Chris Kam

The state of marriage today in Malaysia

The national rate of divorce in 2012 was 26%

The propostion of Muslim divorces is about double that of non-Muslims

1. Biblical Theology of Marriage and the Family

The permanency of marriage.

Mark 10:6-9 “But at the beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female.’ 7 ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, 8 and the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one. 9 Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.” 

2. Biblical Template for the family

Biblical pattern for marriage:

• Ephesians 5:21-33 

a. Wives, submit to your husband as to the Lord (v22-24)

23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. 

b. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself for her (v25-28) 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.

• Ephesians 6:1-4

c. Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 “Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise— 3 “that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.” (v1-3) 

 Luke 2:51-52 51 Then he went down to Nazareth with them and was obedient to them. But his mother treasured all these things in her heart. 52 And Jesus grew in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and men.

d. Fathers, do not exasperate our children, instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord. (v4) 

The Roles and Responsibilities in a Household according to Scripture

ROLES	RESPONSIBILITIES	TEXTS
Fathers	Love your wife*	Eph. 5:25
	Provide for family, children	2 Cor. 12:14
	Ensure proper nurture and discipline	Eph. 6:4; Col. 3:21; Heb. 12:6
Mothers	Submit to your husband*	Eph. 5:22
	Raising of children, motherhood	1 Tim 2:15
	Managing the home	1 Tim. 5:14
Children	Obedience to parents	Eph. 6:1-3; Col. 3:20
	Care for parents in old age	1 Tim. 5:8

Reference: 

God, Marriage, and Family: Rebuilding the Biblical Foundation

By: Andreas J. Kostenberger,David W. Jones

* Added by author of blog

Click here for detail of book.

Verses:

Ephesians 5:25	Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her
2 Corinthians 12:14	Now I am ready to visit you for the third time, and I will not be a burden to you, because what I want is not your possessions but you. After all, children should not have to save up for their parents, but parents for their children.
Ephesians 6:4	Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.
Colossians 3:21	Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged.
Hebrews 12:6	because the Lord disciplines those he loves, and he punishes everyone he accepts as a son.”
Ephesians 5:22	Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord.
1 Timothy 2:15	But women will be saved through childbearing—if they continue in faith, love and holiness with propriety.
1 Timothy 5:14	So I counsel younger widows to marry, to have children, to manage their homes and to give the enemy no opportunity for slander.
Ephesians 6:1–3	1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 “Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise— 3 “that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.”
Colossians 3:20	Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.
1 Timothy 5:8	If anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for his immediate family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.

The foundation of a cohesive family must be built therefore through: 

TRUTH – Biblical truth rooted in scripture about our roles in marriage

FAITHFULNESS – Faithfulness rooted in scripture about the permanency of marriage and family.

3. Biblical Transformation through the Family

How do we build a cohesive family? I want to suggest an IDEA.

Eph 6:4 Bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord

• Instructions 

• Discipline 

• Encouragement 

• Affection 

Luke 3:22 and the Holy Spirit descended on him in bodily form like a dove. And a voice came from heaven: “You are my Son, whom I love; with you I am well pleased.” 

3 things our children need to hear from us. 

I love you (Affection), 

I am proud of you (Acceptance) 

You are good in what you do (Affirmation). 

Appreciation to all our super mothers! Here is one who can do 10 things at one time:

Emily Lee - mother to Maya and wife to Paul Sebastian

To the singles looking for a life partner:

If you want to get married, you must make sure your marriage will give you a greater love for the Lord, the things of the Lord, a greater prospect of ministry. If not stay single. ~ Josh McDowell

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