Slightly over a year ago on 1 Dec 2014, my wife and I were having dinner with a Korean missionary couple and the subject of Thanksgiving came up as the Americans had just celebrated it. He said his church in America had encouraged him to make it personal by listing down the things that he is thankful for at the end of each year. He encouraged me to do likewise and to make it a habit.
So armed with my Evernote, I started ambitiously by having a goal of listing down 500 things I am thankful for in 2014. It was hard going at some points but for the next 30 days, I started writing. By the time 31 Dec 2014 arrived, I had completed my list of 500. I was amazed that I did have 500 things that I am thankful for!
At the end of 2015 last year, I decide to slow
down a little by targeting 100. I would like to chew on each item a little
longer so that I can savour and linger on the blessing and grace of God over
the last twelve months. What have I learnt from these exercises?
The psalmist exhorts us to “Enter his gates with thanksgiving and his
courts with praise;” (Psalm 100:4a) Being thankful and contented is a
virtue. Thankfulness is reflected throughout all of Paul’s letters. Despite
being a man who had borne the brunt of persecutions, sufferings, hardship,
dangers, poverty, rejections and even when he wasn’t healed of a lifelong
ailment, he remained in a state of thankfulness. His assurance from God was “My
grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” (2 Cor.
12:7-8).
This heart of thanksgiving is
encapsulated in this exhortation: “Rejoice
always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s
will for you in Christ Jesus.” (1 Thes. 5:16-18) It is easy to give thanks
when things are good. We see that all the time on social media. Rarely have I
seen someone who gives thanks when things are going wrong. Except one in the recent
weeks where a brother gave thanks to God for his wife who had just gone home to
be with the Lord due to cancer. His facebook post: “It has been 11 days since
my beloved went to be with the Lord. She is walking and leaping and praising
God and I am so happy for her. It still leaves me in a place of loneliness and
aching heart but I am OK because my God is supplying all that I need.”
It is not always easy to give
thanks in ALL circumstances, but this is precisely the thing we must do to experience
God’s grace in our lives. Two things happen when we inculcate a heart of
thanksgiving. First, it breaks the power of the enemy over us. It is a powerful
weapon of spiritual warfare. When we are thankful we invite God’s pleasure over
us and the enemy no longer has any ability to hold or manipulate us in our
discouragement, despair or anger. We begin to learn to ask not so much of the WHY-is-this-happening
in our circumstances but the WHAT-can-we-learn. We may never know or control
the whys but we can certainly decide to learn from the whats.
Second, thanksgiving brings
contentment. Apostle Paul’s advice to Timothy was “But godliness with contentment is great gain.” (1 Tim. 6:6) He
reminded the young man that they came into the world with nothing and will take
nothing out. As long as they have food and clothing, they ought to be
contented. Elisabeth Elliot who faced the tragedy of losing a husband in the
mission field was quoted as saying “Discontent dries up the soul.” She wrote "To
love God is to love His will. It is to wait quietly for life to be measured by
one who knows us through and through. It is to be content with His timing and
His wise apportionment.”
Another obstacle to
contentment is that we tend to compare upwards. We look at what we don’t have
rather than what we have. One of the easiest ways to die to that is get
involved with people who are less fortunate than us. Some of the finest people
I know are people who are serving the poor and the less fortunate. The poor
have a way of reminding us how blessed and fortunate we are. Never wish we
could be someone else or compare ourselves with them. Be happy with or learn to
accept who you are because you cannot change that.
Therefore here’s a practical
way to start you going, by writing your thanksgiving list before year end. What
a great way to end the year by re-aligning our attitude and start with hope. By
all means, list down the blessings, but avoid the temptation to ignore the
failures, losses, missteps or defeats. Pause when you need to for some items. Often
the journey may be more important than the destination as it is God’s way of moulding
us for what He is preparing us for.
The Lord reminded me that we
can go one step further. We can be instrumental in helping someone be thankful.
Last week at a shopping mall, as I was waiting for my turn to pay at the parking
token machine, I notice this elderly Malay gentleman hesitating in front of me
in the queue. He was holding a RM 100 bill and he said he had no smaller bills.
He didn’t know whether the machine will accept it. I told him to give it a go. The machine displayed RM6 as the amount owing
and upon inserting his RM100 bill and it was rejected. Instinctively, I took
out a RM10 bill from my wallet, inserted it into the machine and gave him the
paid token. He didn’t have time to react but I could see his concerned face
break into a smile and insisting on paying me at least with the other one
ringgit bill he had. I walked away saying “No need, it’s my pleasure.” The
phrase “It is more blessed to give than
receive.” (Acts 20:35) flashed in my mind. No doubt it is something small
and probably insignificant. But if that man was to write a thanksgiving list,
he may write about the stranger who helped him pay RM6 in that time of his
need. The Lord reminded me to be listed on someone else’s thanksgiving list.